Jacci Jones Psychotherapy and Life Coaching

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There's always a thought before a feeling

There’s ALWAYS a thought before a feeling!

There’s ALWAYS a thought before a feeling!

We humans, it seems, have anywhere from 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day.

Thoughts like ‘mmmmm chocolate’ come and go with not much impact but what about the thoughts we have that stick around a bit longer. Thoughts like ‘what if I get anxious’, ‘last time I did that I made a fool of myself’.

These kinds of thoughts can prevent us from living the life we want. The reality is they are just the same as the other mundane thoughts we have each and every moment, the difference is we build a story around them.

Here’s what I mean – when I started writing this post I was keen as mustard and raring to go, but then the thoughts started . . . . here’s how it went . . . . . . . . . .

“I’ll put this post on my page . . . . .

It needs to be an interesting useful post . . . . .

I’ll have to be funny . . . . . no, professional . . . . . no, interesting . . . . .

What do I need to do to keep them reading it? . . . . .

Oh crap, I don’t know what to put now . . . . . what will get their attention and keep them reading it?

Does it need to be educational?

I always do this . . . . . I overthink everything then get nothing done . . . . . Oh FFS Sod it I’ll just post a meme!

So did I post a meme?

NO! I wrote this Blog . . . . . and if you’re still reading this something sounds familiar or has pricked your interest.

If we don’t notice the thoughts, we can create a whole story around them then they become real. We create a feeling to go with the thoughts (usually a crappy one) then we act on those feelings, not doing something or doing something we later regret.

We can’t stop our thoughts, it’s a part of being human. We can’t stop our feelings either but we don’t always need to act on them. We can just notice them and let the crappy ones go, they are like buses there will be another one soon enough and if it’s a better one hop on it.

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